Alcohol, the gut, and your mood – yep, they’re all linked. When we talk about the physical dangers of alcohol we often think of the liver or the heart. But your gut is dramatically impacted by drinking alcohol. This has a huge influence on your mood because the microbiome in your gut helps support your nervous system.

We don’t talk enough about the physical dangers of drinking. That’s because alcohol is a part of our societal fabric, emotionally linked with celebrating, relaxing, and getting people together. Big Alcohol would like you to believe that all our big life moments come with a glass of bubbles…

Taking the edge off stress with alcohol is a go-to for many women with far too much on their plates. Our To Do lists are long and our self-care is at the very bottom. A glass of wine (or more) at the end of the day is the fastest, easiest way to unwind and get some relief. The problem is stress leads to drinking more, and then alcohol leads to us feeling more stressed, creating a nasty cycle that's hard to break.

Here I am. Today is a day I could never have imagined reaching four years ago. Today is a day for pausing, slowing down and deeply reflecting on this incredible journey. As I’m finding more and more, writing provides me with such a therapeutic outlet of emotions, reflections, and awareness, that it made sense to put this down in writing. I hope that if you’re reading this silently thinking 'How the hell do I get to 4 years, I can't even get to 4 days right now' this will help you get there too.

If you’re feeling sober and bored, it’s time to redefine your leisure time. You may have noticed alcohol makes boring things seem more interesting than they are. That’s why we can sit and binge-watch mediocre TV on the couch while drinking and feel entertained. Alcohol gives us a whopping big dopamine hit. That hit lights up the reward centre in our brain. We start to relax and feel entertained - without having do anything.

When we go alcohol-free, we need to redefine our leisure time. We need to replace that dopamine hit with something else. We need smaller, effort-based dopamine hits we can get naturally. When we take alcohol out of our lives, we need to put other things in. Like hobbies, interests, extra time with the people we love…

Why does it feel like the people closest to us are our biggest triggers to drink? Because they are! Our partners are often our drinking buddies OR they are the people in our lives who push our buttons and make us feel stressed and frustrated. Both are strong triggers to start drinking in their company.

So, what do we say to them? How do we tackle being triggered by the ones we love while also protecting our sobriety? Let’s dive in…

Why is it so hard to quit drinking mid-life? Because the pressures of life can feel overwhelming at this stage, and women’s conditioning around drinking – spanning decades – is stronger than ever. I quit drinking in my early 40s, at a time when it was harder than ever for me to quit. Many women like me, use wine to self-medicate their overwhelm, anxiety and the symptoms of perimenopause. According to newshub.co, Australian research tells us 1 in 5 women aged 45 to 60 is a binge drinker. That’s double what it was 20 years ago.

Why do we need to stop talking about moderation as an aspirational option? Because alcohol is one of the top 5 most addictive substances on earth, and ‘moderation’ for many drinkers is impossible. Big Alcohol would like us to believe ‘moderate’ drinking is an aspirational lifestyle. A glass of wine with dinner, a glass of bubbles at a party, that wine is the perfect way to unwind after a big day or a way to ‘treat’ ourselves…

You might have given up booze to lose weight, feel better or to simply take back control, but there are extra rewards that I bet you didn’t see coming. These are the emotional rewards of sobriety that start to flow… It’s the newfound peace in your heart. A sort of calmness that comes when you no longer wake up ashamed of yourself. Or a return of mental sharpness you haven’t felt in years…

Here are some signs you need boundaries… You feel resentment towards certain people because they take up too much time and energy. You feel obligated to turn up to events you don’t want to go to. You crave alone time, but you don’t want to appear ‘selfish’, cold, or difficult.

Take a deep dive into your relationship with alcohol and you might see that alcohol wasn’t the ‘problem’. It was a ‘solution’ to a problem that you may have buried deep inside. That may have been a childhood trauma, loneliness, or a lack of self-belief. it may be that it now seems like alcohol is the actual problem, when in fact it was masking the bigger problem.

You can do a lot to support your menopause journey. It’s in the foods we eat and the way we move our body. We need to stress less and sleep more. So, how to start? I’ve got you. Here’s a guide to supporting your menopause journey with 5 key foods and 5 lifestyle habits you can start introducing today.

After many attempts to quit drinking, I finally figured out how to make sobriety stick. I made life changes. I made those changes non-negotiable. I reprogrammed myself to think differently about myself, my life and about alcohol.

Are you worried your partner is against your sobriety? You’ve noticed some snarky comments, raised eyebrows and some serious doubt that you can stay sober? Your partner may have tried to undermine your efforts, guilted you or accused you of not being as much fun as you used to be… Partners can be our biggest triggers! So, how do you protect your sobriety from a partner who won’t stop triggering you? Let’s dive in…

Alcohol makes us lazy. Fact. The simple explanation is this: We are getting a huge dopamine hit simply from sitting on the sofa drinking our wine and watching TV. That hit lights up the reward centre in our brain. We start to relax and get a bit of a buzz - without having do anything.

If you suspect PMT makes alcohol cravings worse – you’d be right. Women are far more likely to derail their sobriety when experiencing PMT than any other time in the month. That’s because PMT symptoms can create a hormonal imbalance within a woman’s brain.

A successful Dry January takes some planning and special hacks to make staying sober easier, less stressful, and you may even enjoy it! If you’ve taken on the challenge of 30 days alcohol-free and your resolve is starting to wobble, I’ve got you…

There are many benefits in taking a month off booze – and not all of them are physical. Take a 30-day break from alcohol and you’ll feel less anxious, moody, and depressed. The link between alcohol and its impact on our mental health and emotional wellbeing is strong. The impact of a 30-day break from drinking can be dramatic.

It’s my fourth sober Christmas and the way I feel surprises me. I feel overwhelmingly grateful for the decision I made in April 2019, to remove alcohol from my life altogether.

My last boozy Christmas was in 2018 when my drinking was at its highest. I was looking for giddy oblivion, but it didn't come. I was drinking more and more to get the high I craved but I just didn't get there. In hindsight my body was tired and tolerant after an alcohol-fueled lead-up to Christmas Day.

Prepare for Christmas drinking triggers early and the festive season will feel easier, more in control and enjoyable. You’ll master what to say when people offer you a drink. You’ll learn how to say No to events and situations that feel risky. You’ll identify who in your life you need to avoid – for your own sake. Plus, you’ll go into the New Year feeling strong, empowered, and understanding your triggers on a deeper level.